When anyone learned about Sharine & Carolyn’s wedding from me, they often asked how it works, not only due the passage of Prop 8 in November, but also because right now same-sex weddings are just not as common as straight weddings and many people are purely curious about what happens at a gay wedding, as they have never actually attended one. In response, I’m glad to say that like any other wedding, gay weddings can be anything the couple want them to be, and fortunately it isn’t gay weddings that have been prohibited by Prop 8’s passage. Gays can still get married in the same manner that a straight couple can get married, from the full traditional ceremony right down to the commitment the couple makes in their hearts to each other. The only difference is the piece of paper they cannot sign afterwards to receive joint benefits as a couple from the U.S. and the state. It may sound like an insignificant detail, but considering that legally married couples receive approximately 1,400 legal and economic benefits between both the U.S. government and the state system, denying a gay man or woman who is just as capable as loving their partner and faithfully remaining with them monogomously for a very long time (right now often without a paper trail to legalize their union, even!) then it seems both ridiculous and discriminatory.
In the face of all this controversy, on April 5th surrounded by supportive loved ones and the twinkling lights of the Tivoli Hacienda, Sharine & Carolyn said their vows to each other. This is precisely what I believe same sex couple should do, with or without their government’s support—if it is a wedding you and your partner have always wanted, then who’s to tell you that you can’t have one! My hat is off to Sharine, Carolyn, and ALL their family and friends who were there to celebrate with them.

( +29 )</div> Many many congratulations to the two beautiful, lucky ladies!
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